Question #1:

My father's relationship with my husband?

When I was little, my dad worked constantly. Although I truly appreciate the hours he put in to provide for us, there are some issues overshadowing my gratitude for this. Just to start off, before I was born, my mom and dad were having some problems, and my mom walked in his office (which is in their home) and found him with his hand's on his secretary's rear. Then, although, we didn't get to see him much because of the hours he worked (sometimes just glimplses of him for a few days at a time even though we lived above the business he ran), however, on the rare instances that he went out of town with us for my gymnastics meets, as soon as we'd get to our hotel room for the night, he'd be off to find a strip club. I guess lap dances were more important than the rare times he got to actually relax with his wife and kids. He constantly eyeballs women to this day. I feel awful for my mom. When I was dating as a teenager and in college, he never talked to me about guys or even had an opinion when I had one that would cheat. He never gave any input at all, didn't even say to me that a guy shouldn't have done that. I never asked him to stand up for me to a guy, I could to that myself, but what about just comforting me and letting me know he was on my side.

Now that I am married, he continually, when he and my husband are together, tells my husband, "you should go out of town with us this year, we go to this really great strip club", "look at the boobs on that chick over there" "this one time at a strip club...".
Needless to say, this irritates me to know end, it really hurts. Aren't dads supposed to want only the absolute best for their daughters? Aren't they supposed to think the world of their daughters and want nothing but queen-style treatment of them by other men? I mean, hey, he should at least not actively encourage my husband to do the same things he always did.
I really do think my dad was working because he worked out of our home, so he was always there, we just didn't see him much. Whenever we would walk through the downstairs we would just see him down the hall. He got called out a lot in the middle of the night, but I know that was really business, too. There's no delicate way of saying this, but he's a funeral director, when he gets called out, he comes home with a deceased person, can't really fake that. It's just every time he goes out of town for a convention or it always seems when my mom is out of town, no one can reach him. My brother, now a funeral director also, runs the show pretty much and dad pops in and out, no one, even my mom, can ever reach him by phone. He kind of disappears. Even my sister-in-law notices and asked me once if my dad was having an affair because of his behavior when mom is gone.
My husband I think just kind of acts really passive about it. Doesn't really participate but doesn't really say anything either. He's never been to a strip club since we met 6 years ago, is home every night right after work (with some golf thrown in there), doesn't even hang out in bars anymore. He's rather toss back a couple of beers playin poker at a friend's house or on a golf course. He's a good guy, but I still have problems.

Question #2:

Do you have anything to say about running a family business?

I want to start my own business. But I have 2 kids under 2 and just have not been able to work on my product at all. My brother's fiance has the same business interests as me. I was thinking she and I should work together to start up a great at home business that could potentially become a substantial income. I know she would agree if I ask her.

My concern is working with family. That can get messy, right? We get along so great, but who knows if we work together.

Do you have any advice for me? Any stories to tell?

Question #3:

How can I delete an operating system from my computer?

My new computer came with Windows Vista Home (finger print recognition, etc) and I accidentally installed Vista Business over it thinking it was Microsoft Works. My nice Home settings, including the finger print sign in, are now gone and business is the operating system. How can I restore my computer back to what it was before. I tried the F8 to advanced options but the system restore option is not there.
If I now have 2 operating systems on my computer, can I just reinstall the one that was originally placed on there even though it is still on there somewhere?

Question #4:

Does anyone see the difference between Israel and hamas?

Gaza War Diary III: If Mexico shelled Texas, like Hamas shells Israel
By Bradley Burston
Analogy One: A fanatical religious party wins a string of elections in Mexico's northern states, then stages a civil war to drive out the federal government and take full control.

The party's charter demands the return to Mexico of the occupied territories of California, Nevada, Utah, Arizona, New Mexico, Colorado and Texas.

Firing homemade rockets and more advanced projectiles smuggled in from Iran and China, the party's gunners can hit a total of one of every seven Americans, or 43,598,000 people, in a broad swath which includes Los Angeles, San Diego, Phoenix, Albuquerque, Austin, San Antonio and Houston, and Las Vegas.

In all of these areas, pre-schools, grade schools, and universities are all forced to shut down. Families sleep in bomb shelters, and return to them several times a day during air raids. Businesses are shuttered, and the economy shuts down.


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Analogy Two: A man comes into your home. He has a gun he made himself. He points it at your family. He fires, but misses. The gun has little accuracy. He fires repeatedly, missing again and again.

You have a much better gun, made in a real factory. It is in the drawer in the bedroom.

Demonstrators in London and San Francisco - who are distant relatives of the gunman - stage a protest, calling you a murderer and demanding that you keep the well-made gun in the drawer because it would be a disproportionate response.

The man with the homemade gun, it turns out, is a religious fanatic who lives across the street. You were once his landlord. There is much bad blood between you.

He races back across the street. He has a larger weapon that he smuggled in through his basement. He shoots from behind his younger son. He wounds your daughter. You take out a rifle. You aim for him and hit the son, killing the boy.

The demonstrators are now calling you a Nazi and chant "Slaughter the Landlord!"

[In his defense, the neighbor explains that you have kept him and his family locked in the house, and have at times, failed to pay his water, gas and electric bills, causing them to be sporadically turned off.

This is some years after the neighbor send out his older son, nicely dressed, to knock on your door. Your older daughter opens the door. He greet her politely, and presses the detonator on a homemade bomb.]


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And finally a word about...

Analogy Three: Gaza as the Warsaw Ghetto

Jew-haters the world over adore this one. It solves a number of problems at once:

It denies and diminishes and exploits the Holocaust, does disrespect to Holocaust victims and survivors alike, alleviates European guilt over complicity with the Nazis, alleviates American guilt over inaction in the face of the annihilation machine, misrepresents both the cruel reality of the Gaza Strip and the cruel reality of the ghetto, dismisses the humanity and the vulnerability of the million Israeli Jews and Arabs within rocket range, and ignores completely the role of Hamas, the Islamic Jihad, the Popular Resistance Committees, and the Al-Aqsa Martyrs Brigades, in having sent thousands and thousands and thousands of rockets and mortars into Israel.

As a bonus, pro-Palestinian demonstrators in San Francisco [where else?], referencing the the Warsaw Ghetto analogy, recently beat up a small number of pro-Israel demonstrators, reportedly shouting "Slaughter the Jew" at them in Arabic.
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Question #5:

I am a texas realtor, i work from my house, what home expenses are tax deductible? e.g. internet, light? etc..?

I am a Texas Realtor, I work under a broker but from my own home. I know that realtor fees, advertisements, home office supplies and cell phone are deductible, but what about other services used for the business? I have to use internet for my job and electricity, would these services be tax deductible. What about gas and car services? Any professional advice would surely be appreciated!

Question #6:

How do I get my Cocker Spaniel to stop peeing and stepping in it?! Grrr.. lol?

I just got a new Cocker Spaniel. He is 3 months old. He loves us already and is a very happy pup! I was wondering about how I get him to use the potty pads or to stop peeing/poopin and stepping in it. He doesn't even notice. I tried the method of putting a little pee on the pad but that doesn't seem to work. We take him out every hour. So he's getting better but I was wondering if anyone has any tips for those times we arent home and he does his business... Could it be just cause hes young and doesnt know the difference yet? Thanks people!

Question #7:

Im looking for a great work from home career. NOT a job. ?

Any information of an online career from home. Not a 9-5, or money to barely get by, or extra cash.

I have money to invest to start a home based business.

Thanks.

Question #8:

Who should I contact in the Obama team?

It want to start a business.
Most years in the spring the river behind my home swells. When the water recedes there are at least 500, 3+ pound suckers trapped in a small pool which dries up. I have been a good environmentalist and taken these dead fish and buried them in my garden. I believe I could make money next spring by getting these fish before they decompose and sending them to people. (I’ll call my business Rahmogram, or Emanuel greeting!) I’m sure a lot of people would love to send one to their ex or boss.
Who would you send one to?

Question #9:

a question on forclosed homes why do many different listing dates?

there is this house that had a so called auction november 13 2008 but the residents still live there. then their house has been on the pre forclosed list for months with different listing dates. it changes every few weeks. for example it went from dec.15 and this morning its went to jan.2 2009. i know its none of my business but iam just wondering why. are these damm people house going to eventually be completely forclosed and they will move out or does it seem like they might be staying longer. please help me out. thanks :)

Question #10:

What is a good job, or a good company to work for while in college?

I will be going to hairdressing school soon and the hours are long. I know I need a night job. Preferably not past 10pm on school nights though. Does anyone know any good jobs or companies that would be good?

I need money. I am not picky about the job, I just have a lot of bills that I need to keep up on while in school, so I need a steady paycheck. No work at home or own your own business stuff. No work study or anything either.

Im talking like any good restaurants or places like starbucks or something.

By the way, I am 18

Question #11:

My fiancee is needy and sometimes emotionally abusive. It's been one year and I think I'm getting cold feet.?

When we first got together, we would talk for hours, but now I can barely stand talking to him for 1 hour a day. I've tried to tell him that calling every other day would be better because then more stuff would have happened and I'd have more to talk about, but he throws a huge fit about it and insists on talking every single day. However, when I have nothing to talk about, he gets upset with me. That is extremely frustrating. When I am faced with a new opportunity such as opening a restaurant with my uncle, getting a new job, going to a new college, or even going on a vacation, he throws a fit about it because he feels that I won't be able to fit everything in the equation, everything always meaning him. Whenever we fight, he always calls me inconsiderate, blaming me for hurting him and never thinking about him in anything I do. If I didn't care, I wouldn't tell him anything new, right? I know he is jealous about some of these things because when I told him about the trip I am taking with my grandmother across the country in the spring, he threw a big fit saying things like "I haven't been on vacation since I was 17", or "Those were some places that I was going to take you when we get to go on vacation". The fact that this may be the final long period of time I get to spend with my grandmother does not seem to hit home. Not to mention I have not been on a trip since I was 16 because I've been working and going to school ever since then (I went straight to college after high school). I tried to please him, by turning down the new job opportunity, holding off on the business opportunity with my uncle, etc. Now I am broke, practically jobless because my current job barely has any hours, and frustrated.
When we are to get together and do something, it is ALWAYS up to me to decide what to do. Most of the time what I end up planning doesn't suit his mood and he acts like an unappreciative bastard. When I tell him to think for himself for once and plan what he wants to do, he throws a big fit about that and claims that he absolutely cannot do that. He never even tries, so how would he know? If he was in the Eagle Scouts, in charge of projects as he claims, why can't he take the initiative to plan a date?
As for the emotionally abusive part, he always has to cut me down about something whenever we are together. Whether it be correcting me on a fact, showing me up about anything he knows more about than I, I just feel that anything I say is up for criticism.
Whenever we are alone together, I feel like he treats me like a piece of ass, whether it be grabbing my chest, my butt, or grinding against me when we cuddle on the couch. It's sickening because I feel that only one thing is on his mind.
I feel that our connection stops on the physical level because we are two completely different levels mentally. Sometimes it seems like I have to slam a board composed of reality over his head to get my point across. What happened to the being able to talk for hours? We used to be able to connect like glue. We used to seem so in tune with each other, but was it simply infatuation? I need some solid advice because I either want to postpone the wedding date or terminate this relationship entirely.
It's getting so bad for me that I have been acting ill to avoid spending time with him. He drains me emotionally and spiritually and he never sees what he does to me hurts like hell. Serious answers, please. This is too serious to attempt being cool or funny.

Question #12:

How do I go about getting a tenant out of home?

We are landlords in Las Vegas, NV and our tenant has a signed lease agreement that expired Nov 30th 2008 at 11:59pm. We talked and agreed he would stay for the month of December and every month thereafter would be up to talk. It is now Jan 4th 2009 and he hasn't paid for the month of Dec. We served him with a "5 day notice to pay or quit" on Dec 17th 2008 and 5 business days later, Dec 24th 2008, nothing happened.
I was unable to go to Justice Court on the 26th because my father, who is the owner, was out of town. We tried to contact our tenants the week of Dec 29th with no avail and on Jan 3rd we went down to the home and spoke with him.
He told me that when he went to file a response to the 5day notice, he was told it wasn't a legal paper. I printed the paper from this website Click Here so I don't know how it could not be legal. I didn't pay to serve him, I was told I could do it myself. On Jan 3rd, we told him he was to leave in 5 days but we have no written statement of that.

Do we just go to a company that deals with all of this or what can I do in order to get him out of the house asap?

Question #13:

Hello , I was wondering if there is any legitimate home base businesses?

I am not well enough anymore to work at my previous job. Therefore I am now looking for something do to at home over the internet. Is there really anything out there. I have tried at least 3 different sites on the internet and lost money. Please , if there all scams could someone let me know.
Thanks
Janice

Question #14:

I am looking for a legit home based business. any ideas?

I want to work full time and don't have the money to invest. thanks for any help.

Question #15:

Everyone's making immigration proposals these days, let me add mine to the mix. First, if you Immigrate to ?

our country, you have to speak the native language, you have to be a professional or an investor, no unskilled worker's allowed, also, their will be no special bi-lingual programs in the schools, no government business with be conducted in your native language, foreigners will not have the right to vote or hold political office. If you're in our country, you will not be a burden to tax payers. You will not be entitled to wellfare, food stamps or other government goodies. You can come if you invest here, an amount equal to 40,000 times the daily minimum wage, if not, stay home. But if you want to buy land, it will be restricted, no waterfront property for instance, and as a foreigner you have to relinguish individual rights to the property. And another thing, you don't have the right to protest, you are allowed no demonstrations, no foreign flag waving, no political organizing, no bad-mouthing our President or his policies. You're a foreigner, shut your mouth or get out. And if you come here ILLEGALLY, YOU'RE GOING TO JAIL. If you think these laws are harsh? Well, every law that I just mentioned are actual laws of Mexico. That's how the Mexican Government handles immigrants to their country, yet Mexicans come here illegally and protest in our streets. How do you say double standard in spanish? How about, No Mas?????

All of this is true. what do you think about this?

Question #16:

someone help please w/ parenting advice-mad family members!?

ok this is a kind of complicated situation. My fiance and i live with his parents and our 4 month old son. My biological parents passed away a number of years ago, so i stayed several places growing up. my favorite of which my brother's home. he and his wife act as surrogate grandparents for my deceased parents. Since about 3 weeks post partum, my sister in law has been picking my son up friday afternoon and spending the day with him.

this always bothered me b/c frankly i don't think children need to unnecessarily go spend entire days and nights for no reason. in my opinion, a baby doesn't care who there with or where there at as long as they are comfortable, so when reletives keep him it is purley for the enjoyment of the adult and i think the adult should be able to understand being told no.

well w/ cold and flu season in our midst, i recently withdrew permission for my sis and bro to keep him weekly. they have three children who are all under ten and go to 3 seperate schools. My pediatrician even agrees that the kids are exposed to 3 sets of different children and have 3 time that much risk of bringing germs and sickness back to the home and if I'm not there then there is no guarantee that Friday afternoon when the kids return home excited to see there cousin that they will hand sanitize or anything before touching the baby.

this made my brother and his wife very mad at me. They said i'm only doing it because of my brothers wife's little sister being at there house (whom i do not get along with) and i need to grow up.i explained the germ thing but they say it is a cover up so i do not have to say i hate your wife's sister and i refuse to come over. I said during the week me and the baby can both come over a few evenings a week and my sis n law said no i don't let any1 stay late on school nights and i said thats fine i can find a ride earlier to leave before the kids go to bed. and she said i would just prefer no company on school nights. so i said ok you can come up any day of the week and visit us at my house and she said i don't like your MIL (they've had there differences) and don't feel comfortable there. my mil is almost never home or asleep b/c she works third shift and also says she no longer has any problem w/ my sister in law and would be perfectly fine w/ her being in our home whether my mil was present or not. but my sis in law still refuses. I even said me her and the baby could all go out to lunch during the week and she said no i babysit during the day no room in my car for that.

in my opinion if she (or any1) can't work within the limits ive set for my child visiting family then they don't get to see him. I gave her several options in which she could see my son but it seems like she is trying to make it to where i have no choice but to allow her to pick him up again for a private visit all day long. I won't cave and i think it drives her nuts. My sis and law has gotten very mad and said "i don't need you to supervise me with your son" and that iced the cake for me. he is my child and i need to make sure he does what i say and for her to say something like that gives me the idea she is saying "i know how to mother him and what goes on when he is here is none of your business" i'm like hello i'm his mom so he should be with me. my sister in law has formula bottles bath things clothes and a basinett at her home for him. she said i can have all this back and not come back. i said if his stuff at your house is a big deal then fine i will come pick it up. and that lit her on fire even more. she keeps being "unavailable" for me to get the things when i say i have the time to run down and get it. i think she just said that so i would say oh no if i have to let him come over or stay gone forever then i will just start sending him down again. what do you guys think? am i right on my thinking?

Note: i never said he isn't allowed to see my brother, wife and there children. I said we can both come down sometimes or not at all. alot of people misunderstand and think i said they aren't allowed to see my son ever again. this is not true.
good point judy. however my baby will not be kissed and held and touched by ever1 in the restaurant or be touching any surfaces to contract germs. while i realize germs are any and everywhere and even in the air and on me- the three children go to public school and touch things all the children touch and germs can quickly get rampid through out an elementary school. not to mention 3. many people do not take the best care of there children and even if children are taught to wash there hands and cover there mouth doesn't mean they will. my pediatrician also said that in order to begin kindergarten, children need shots to make them immune to some serious diseases that my 4 month old is not immune to.

Question #17:

Vista upgrade to Windows 7 Free*** Tech Guarantee program?

Microsoft's Tech Guarantee Program, Is this open to anybody who qualify? or is there a catch?

Microsoft is planning a Windows 7 Tech Guarantee Program, where end users who purchase Vista systems will have the option (for a limited time) of upgrading to Windows 7. Microsoft's Tech Guarantee Program enables upgrading to a corresponding product at a minimal cost** (taxes/ admin/packaging etc,)
Eligible Editions : Windows Vista Home Premium, Windows Vista Business, Windows Vista Ultimate
Eligible Languages : Wave 0 to Wave 4
Available Upgrade Paths : Like-to-like product paths only (e.g. from Windows Vista Home Premium to Windows 7 Home Premium)
Once Windows 7 is released, OEMs can send Windows 7 upgrade disks to end-users who qualify. The Windows 7 installation will require end-user activation. Does look like Windows 7 will have as many versions as Vista.
Are we everyday Vista users classed as end users?
Sounds to good to be true!

Question #18:

why is it so hard to get over an injustice committed by a family member?

My husband worked for his parents family business after college. He got paid almost nothing and worked 80-100 a week. They made millions. He stayed with the promise that all of his hours of overtime were going to stock. After 15 yrs, when his parents were in their 70's and didn't even show up anymore, and we got married and had a baby, I asked about said stock. (we eloped because no one supported our marriage) They provided phony stock certificates for 50%. I took them to a lawyer, found out, and all hell broke loose. We ended up buying the co. for more than it was worth, (mostly to save husband's reputation bc everyone associated name with him), paid endless accounting and legal bills, and were insulted like crazy. To make last payment last year on jan 1 we had to sell our house and borrow like crazy. I continued to let them see their grandkid, I drove her to their house, and she and I went to family weddings, functions etc. They kept demanding more money. Their accountant cooked the books in the final year that they owned 50% and our accountant told us just to pay it becuase it would cost more to fight it - so he got his 50% of money and we got very little and still owed taxes on our %50 according to his accounting. He then began saying we hadn't made payments and we would have to find cashed checks to prove that we had. Finally, one afternoon drove grandchild to their house for a visit. Saw f-i-l, he wouldn't even look at me to say hello. I was furious. Then after I got home, I got a text message that F-I-L's b-day was that day, just letting me know so I wouldn't be uncomfortable picking her up. My husband and I weren't invited. I went to the house before it started, grabbed child, and left. M-I-L started sending myhusband nasty emails about me (that woman) and we decided to never speak to them again. IT STILL HURTS! When I heard about their housewarming party at their new $1,000,000 house I was furious. When I ran into their painters and they said M-I-L misses my child so much, I WAS FURIOUS! When people tell us that we should make amends I get furious. They are rotten human beings. Have treated people like crap forever, and I always knew they were bad news. Is this my punishment for standing by when they treated their other's like this?

Question #19:

Why is it so hard to get over an injustice by a family member?

My husband worked for his parents family business after college. He got paid almost nothing and worked 80-100 a week. They made millions. He stayed with the promise that all of his hours of overtime were going to stock. After 15 yrs of this, when his parents were in their 70's and didn't even show up anymore, and we got married and had a baby, I asked about said stock. (we eloped because no one supported our marriage) They provided phony stock certificates for 50%. I took them to a lawyer, found out, and all hell broke loose. We ended up buying the co. for more than it was worth, (mostly to save husband's reputation bc everyone associated name with him), paid endless accounting and legal bills, and were insulted like crazy. To make last payment last year on jan 1 we had to sell our house and borrow like crazy. I continued to let them see their grandkid, I drove her to their house, and she and I went to family weddings, functions etc. They kept demanding more money. Their accountant cooked the books in the final year that they owned 50% and our accountant told us just to pay it becuase it would cost more to fight it - so he got his 50% of money and we got very little and still owed taxes on our %50 according to his accounting. He then began saying we hadn't made payments and we would have to find cashed checks to prove that we had. Finally, one afternoon drove grandchild to their house for a visit. Saw f-i-l, he wouldn't even look at me to say hello. I was furious. Then after I got home, I got a text message that F-I-L's b-day was that day, just letting me know so I wouldn't be uncomfortable picking her up. My husband and I weren't invited. I went to the house before it started, grabbed child, and left. M-I-L started sending myhusband nasty emails about me (that woman) and we decided to never speak to them again. IT STILL HURTS! When I heard about their housewarming party at their new $1,000,000 house I was furious. When I ran into their painters and they said M-I-L misses my child so much, I WAS FURIOUS! When people tell us that we should make amends I get furious. They are rotten human beings. Have treated people like crap forever, and I always knew they were bad news. Is this my punishment for standing by when they treated their other's like this?

Question #20:

Is there any internet business. I would like to work at home. ?

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